Why Desperation Keeps You Stuck and How to Break Free from the Pressure to Heal
Many of us fall into a common pattern: we become so desperate to heal that we start consuming everything in sight - self-help books, podcasts, YouTube videos, TikTok tutorials, personality tests like the Enneagram, human design, and Myers-Briggs, hoping to find that one missing piece that will suddenly make everything make sense.
But here's the truth: healing isn't about collecting information. It's about changing your mindset, applying what you’re learning on the journey, and setting realistic expectations for how the journey is going to unfold.
3 Reasons Your Healing Journey Feels Like a Never-Ending Roller Coaster Ride
3 Reasons Your Healing Journey Feels Like a Never-Ending Roller Coaster Ride...and what to do instead so you can finally feel grounded and at peace.
You’ve been doing the work. The journaling. The therapy. The affirmations. The breathwork. You’ve read every self-help book with a hopeful heart, thinking, “This time, maybe something will finally shift.”
But instead of feeling lighter, more confident, or more in control, it feels like you’re constantly being thrown around on an emotional roller coaster. One day you’re feeling on top of your healing game—and the next, you’re spiraling, triggered, and wondering if you’ve actually made any progress at all.
If this feels painfully familiar, you’re not alone. And more importantly—you’re not doing it wrong.
Let’s unpack why this keeps happening and what you can do to finally create lasting emotional stability on your healing journey.
A Compassionate Guide to Authentic Healing to Finally Break Free from the Self-Help Hamster Wheel
Have you ever wondered how our childhood experiences shape our need for perfection? Perfectionism is a huge issue in our society, and more people struggle with it than we realize. We push ourselves to be flawless and meet these impossible standards. Have you ever really stopped to think about why there is such a strong desire to be perfect? Is it because we live in a high-achieving culture, or is there something more at play?
I've met countless people who are perpetual high achievers. They're always pushing themselves to be better, faster, stronger–just like that Daft Punk song– and I was one of those people.
Recognizing why we're perfectionists is the first step. The next step is to embark on the journey of healing and personal growth. It means acknowledging the wounds of our past, working through buried emotions, and developing a more loving and accepting relationship with ourselves. It's not easy—I've been there, done that—but it's necessary if we want to be free from the shackles of perfectionism.
Embracing Motherhood, Creativity, and Growth: Insights from Mitzi Ocasio
Motherhood, creativity, and personal growth are journeys filled with challenges and triumphs. Recently, I had the pleasure of delving into a fascinating conversation with Mitzi Ocasio, a fellow podcaster, and children's book author, who shared her profound insights on these topics. Our discussion touched on the power of storytelling, overcoming fears, and leaving a legacy that transcends generations. Now I want to share it with you!
What No One Told You About Emotionally Preparing Yourself for Healing Childhood Trauma
Today, we're diving into a deeply significant and challenging topic: how to emotionally prepare yourself before you begin healing your childhood trauma. If you’re reading this, you’ve likely recognized that your past is impacting your present, and you’re ready to address it–that’s a monumental step, congratulations! But what’s the next step? Let’s unpack this head-on without sugarcoating anything.
First things first, this healing journey is no quick fix but will improve the rest of your life. It’s a process, and yeah, it can get pretty messy and complicated. You’ve probably been dodging some feelings for a while now, maybe even years, and facing them isn’t easy, but it’s super important.
The only way to get through it is to dive right in!
I’ve got some major tips to help you navigate this bumpy road. But hey, that doesn’t mean you need to follow them in a strict order or that there won't be more stuff to consider. As a coach—and someone who’s been through childhood trauma—I just know these steps are game-changers. They’ll take your experience from feeling super heavy and confusing to something way more manageable.