Mom, Set Free From Your Childhood
Becoming a mother is a life-changing experience that brings immense joy and fulfillment, but it can also be a challenging journey, especially for those who have unhealed childhood trauma because it can be difficult to genuinely connect with your children on a deep level, and it can affect your relationship with them in many ways.
I know it because I went through it as well and it wasn’t an easy journey, It’s not only about being a good parent for them, it’s also about becoming a good parent for your own unhealed, mourning, scared inner child.
Unhealed childhood trauma can manifest in various ways, such as anxiety, depression, anger, and difficulty in establishing boundaries. These signs can make it challenging for you to be present for your children emotionally and mentally, because your own inner child is needing that from you as well, which can result in your children feeling disconnected and unsupported, and you feeling constantly drained and overwhelmed.
It's important to understand that you are not alone in this struggle, and there are ways to overcome it.
Here are some ways that can help you:
1. Seek help: Maybe you already did and therapy didn’t work. It happened to me as well and I can tell you that it’s not the end of the world, actually, there are many ways to approach the situation from coaching to energy healing alternatives.
Finding a good method for you can help process your childhood trauma and provide you with the tools to manage your symptoms. A trained therapist or coach can help you identify patterns of behavior that may be affecting your relationship with your children and provide you with practical strategies to improve your communication and connection.
2. Practice self-care: Lots of it. Taking care of yourself is essential for your mental and emotional well-being, especially when there’s something needing to be addressed inside. Self-care can include activities such as exercise, meditation, journaling, baking, or spending time in nature. Prioritizing your self-care can help you manage most manifestations of that trauma, help you heal and improve your ability to be present for your children.
3. Be honest with your children: It's important to be honest with your children about your struggles and limitations. Letting them know that you may need extra support or time can help them understand your behavior and feel more connected to you. It can also provide an opportunity to model healthy communication and boundaries, validate their needs and help you all build a safe space.
4. Create a support system: Building a support system can help you feel less isolated and provide you with practical and emotional support. This can include friends, family, a coach, or a support group for mothers with similar experiences. Your support system, safety net or however you want to call it, should be an extremely safe space for you. Don’t feel pressured to include people that don’t make you feel good, understood, validated or supported just because they’re “close”.
Being a mom with unhealed childhood trauma can be challenging, but it's important to remember that healing is possible. With the right support and strategies, you can overcome your trauma and build a stronger connection with your children. Remember to be kind to yourself and take things one day at a time. You are a strong and resilient mom who is capable of healing and providing a loving and supportive environment for your children.
If you need help, I’d love to be there for you. I’m Kim Keane, coach and energy healer specialized in helping moms like you transform their lives and set free from the hurt of their past. If you go through my website you’ll learn more about my mission and how we can work together.