I’m Aware of My Trauma, Now What?

Trauma can be a deeply life-altering experience, and it can affect us in ways that we may not even realize.

Coping with trauma can be challenging, and it's not always easy to recognize when we're struggling. In fact, many people may not fully understand or acknowledge their trauma until much later in life.

Realizing that you are coping with trauma can be a profound moment of self-discovery and can be the first step toward healing. Especially if you’re a mom it is important to be aware of what you’re going through and start healing before transmitting or reflecting your trauma onto your kids.

In this blog, we will explore what it means to cope with trauma, common signs and symptoms, and strategies for moving forward on the path to recovery. Whether you're just starting to recognize your own experiences or have been coping with trauma for some time, this blog will provide valuable insights and guidance for navigating your journey toward healing and growth.

Some common signs and symptoms of childhood or generational trauma may include:

1. High levels of anxiety or fear.

2. Depression or low moods.

3. Difficulty trusting yourself and others.

4. Low self-esteem, confidence, or feelings of worthlessness.

5. Difficulty regulating emotions, such as anger, nervousness or sadness.

6. Chronic feelings of guilt or shame.

7. Difficulty forming and maintaining relationships.

8. Chronic health problems or physical symptoms without a clear medical cause.

9. Substance abuse or other addictive behaviors as a means of coping.

10. Repetitive patterns of negative behaviors or relationships.

It's important to note that childhood or generational trauma can be complex and may not always present in obvious ways. Some people may show a combination of these signs, while others may not show any signs at all. Additionally, these symptoms can be indicative of other mental health conditions, so it's important to seek professional help if you are experiencing any of these symptoms and are unsure of the cause.

With the right support and resources, it is possible to heal from childhood or generational trauma and move towards a healthier, more fulfilling life!

So… You’ve realized that you’re dealing with trauma, now what?

Now, it’s time to accept it and stop it from running your life and actions.

Here are 3 easy steps to start coping with it while you get used to the feeling of consciously choosing to change those patterns.

1- Identify what set you off.

When we’re running on autopilot, when we’re upset or caught off guard, we don’t necessarily even know the real reason we’ve come unhinged. We think it’s the thing staring us right in the face but it’s something that runs much deeper. 

Have you ever lost it because you asked your kid to put their shoes on nicely the first 3 times? By time #5 you’re screaming. They’re looking at you like you have 10 heads. In the moment you’re thinking what is it going to take for them to listen the first time. Really, what just happened is that you feel like no one hears you. That feeling goes way back to when you were a little girl. 

2- Give yourself a chance to reset.

It’s ok to take a moment to step away from the situation to catch your breath…literally. Taking several deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth can help the anger and frustration subside so you can move through the situation from a more rational and centered place. 

3- Reflect on what you can do differently next time you get triggered.

Take time to journal or make a few notes on your phone about the situation and what you will do the next time it happens. This will help minimize the feeling of being out of control and being blindsided. It’s a little ‘cheat’ to begin setting yourself up for success.

Connecting with a coach can help you find guidance toward the healing you’re seeking and I’d love to help you with that. I’m Kim Keane and I understand what you’re going through because I healed from trauma and now I help moms find their way to a healthier life.