A Compassionate Guide to Authentic Healing to Finally Break Free from the Self-Help Hamster Wheel
Have you ever wondered how our childhood experiences shape our need for perfection? Perfectionism is a huge issue in our society, and more people struggle with it than we realize. We push ourselves to be flawless and meet these impossible standards. Have you ever really stopped to think about why there is such a strong desire to be perfect? Is it because we live in a high-achieving culture, or is there something more at play?
I've met countless people who are perpetual high achievers. They're always pushing themselves to be better, faster, stronger–just like that Daft Punk song– and I was one of those people.
Recognizing why we're perfectionists is the first step. The next step is to embark on the journey of healing and personal growth. It means acknowledging the wounds of our past, working through buried emotions, and developing a more loving and accepting relationship with ourselves. It's not easy—I've been there, done that—but it's necessary if we want to be free from the shackles of perfectionism.
The Hidden Reasons You’re Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically Drained—And How to Finally Break Free
Have you ever felt completely exhausted—even when you’re not doing anything physically demanding? Like no matter how much you rest, you still wake up feeling drained? You’re not alone.
Many people feel stuck in an endless cycle of burnout without realizing that the real culprit isn’t their workload or responsibilities—it’s unprocessed emotions and the way they’re approaching healing.
If you’ve been skimming the surface of your healing by overthinking, replaying the past, or constantly searching for the “one thing” that will finally bring relief, it’s no wonder you’re exhausted. Let’s break down why this happens—and what you can do to change it.
The Hidden Roots of Perfectionism: How Childhood Shapes Our Struggles and Path to Healing
Have you ever wondered how our childhood experiences shape our need for perfection? Perfectionism is a huge issue in our society, and more people struggle with it than we realize. We push ourselves to be flawless and meet these impossible standards. Have you ever really stopped to think about why there is such a strong desire to be perfect? Is it because we live in a high-achieving culture, or is there something more at play?
I've met countless people who are perpetual high achievers. They're always pushing themselves to be better, faster, stronger–just like that Daft Punk song– and I was one of those people.
Recognizing why we're perfectionists is the first step. The next step is to embark on the journey of healing and personal growth. It means acknowledging the wounds of our past, working through buried emotions, and developing a more loving and accepting relationship with ourselves. It's not easy—I've been there, done that—but it's necessary if we want to be free from the shackles of perfectionism.
Healing the Wounds of Criticism and Abandonment: My Journey of Self-Worth
Healing is about getting to a place where you can show love and compassion to yourself. It's about understanding that you are seen, heard, and valued. This journey is tough, but it's worth it. The community is here to support you, and together, we can navigate this path to healing and self-worth.
I hope it brings you comfort and encouragement!
What No One Told You About Emotionally Preparing Yourself for Healing Childhood Trauma
Today, we're diving into a deeply significant and challenging topic: how to emotionally prepare yourself before you begin healing your childhood trauma. If you’re reading this, you’ve likely recognized that your past is impacting your present, and you’re ready to address it–that’s a monumental step, congratulations! But what’s the next step? Let’s unpack this head-on without sugarcoating anything.
First things first, this healing journey is no quick fix but will improve the rest of your life. It’s a process, and yeah, it can get pretty messy and complicated. You’ve probably been dodging some feelings for a while now, maybe even years, and facing them isn’t easy, but it’s super important.
The only way to get through it is to dive right in!
I’ve got some major tips to help you navigate this bumpy road. But hey, that doesn’t mean you need to follow them in a strict order or that there won't be more stuff to consider. As a coach—and someone who’s been through childhood trauma—I just know these steps are game-changers. They’ll take your experience from feeling super heavy and confusing to something way more manageable.
Feeling Lost: My Journey from Teaching to Finding Myself
Do you feel so lost in life, like nothing is going right for you? Maybe it’s even the darkest time you’ve ever had. I can totally relate because I was there too. Back in 2014, I left my teaching career, and I just felt so alone and like a failure. I didn’t think there was anything worth living for after that, even though, from the outside looking in, I had it all. I had a beautiful house, a loving husband, two beautiful girls, nice cars, college degrees—you know, the “white picket fence lifestyle.” But it just felt like there was something missing.
In this blog, I’m going to share with you the three reasons why I felt lost, and I hope that they help you on your journey. Make sure you keep reading because I think the third reason is going to be the most surprising!
Are You Repeating Childhood Patterns Today? Let’s Find Out!
The way we live our childhood can profoundly impact our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world, and eventually, that permeates into our relationships. I bet you’ve had at least one relationship in your life where you felt that everything was so familiar, it was easy to read through them, you always knew how to solve the problems because you already went through some of those with your parents, or you saw the way they used to get along and you 100% understood how “normal relationship dynamics worked”. If you’re a bit more aware of the fact that something was wrong back then you might have wondered if your adult relationships are a replay of your childhood ones. Let me tell you, chances are, they probably are to some extent, and maybe you don’t even know it.
Let’s dive deeper into this topic to see if unhealed childhood trauma is sneaking into your life - and what you can do to leave the past in the past!
From Trauma to Triumph: Embracing Inner Strength and Resilience
As a final piece of advice for today, I would say: Choose positivity as your driving force. Acknowledge your inner strength, adaptability, independence, resourcefulness, and perseverance. Healing transforms weakness into resilience, fear into courage, and trauma into empowerment. You’re not defined by your past; you’re shaped by your ability to rise above it. Let the positive lead your journey toward self-discovery and healing!
DM me or email me at kim@kimkeane.com if you want to get personalized support, download my Free Everyday Spirituality Handbook or get my EFT Tapping Booster Session to continue making progress on your healing journey!
