Set yourself free from expectations
I hate to admit it but for quite a while I had unrealistic expectations for everything - the way my kids behaved, the way my husband parented, the way he showed up in our marriage, my business, etcetera.
That’s just the tip of the iceberg, to be honest. These expectations were rarely met by them or me and that kept the loop going ‘round and ‘round.
Having unrealistic expectations for myself and others caused feelings of anger, resentment, and frustration all the time. I lived with these feelings more often than not and nobody notices it when in the situation but it can be so consuming and detrimental to one’s health and relationships. Needless to say, at the time I was a ticking time bomb.
I realized that in order to find a better perspective, I needed to:
Set standards.
Let go of expectations once and for all.
Stop taking others’ behavior personally.
Understand that the outcome of situations is not something that should bring me down. Actually, having expectations was keeping me down.
Shifting these allowed me to clearly communicate what I was thinking, feeling and needing.
It took some of the ownness off of me and allowed others to have responsibility and free will.
Are you making the shift with me?