Today, we're diving into a deeply significant and challenging topic: how to emotionally prepare yourself before you begin healing your childhood trauma. If you’re reading this, you’ve likely recognized that your past is impacting your present, and you’re ready to address it–that’s a monumental step, congratulations! But what’s the next step? Let’s unpack this head-on without sugarcoating anything.

First things first, this healing journey is no quick fix but will improve the rest of your life. It’s a process, and yeah, it can get pretty messy and complicated. You’ve probably been dodging some feelings for a while now, maybe even years, and facing them isn’t easy, but it’s super important.

The only way to get through it is to dive right in!

I’ve got some major tips to help you navigate this bumpy road. But hey, that doesn’t mean you need to follow them in a strict order or that there won't be more stuff to consider. As a coach—and someone who’s been through childhood trauma—I just know these steps are game-changers. They’ll take your experience from feeling super heavy and confusing to something way more manageable.

Life’s challenges can often make us feel isolated and disconnected. However, by exploring and defining your own spirituality, you can find a sense of connection, support, and inner peace that will stick with you during the toughest times of your future. Whether through traditional religious practices or holistic modalities, the journey to discovering what spirituality means to you is incredibly personal and powerful. Embrace the path that resonates with your soul and allows you to nurture your spirit!

I once believed that doing what everyone else did—therapy, self-help, venting to friends, or even taking medication—would magically make my life better. That’s what every single blog and self-help book said, right? But I found myself more lost, desperate, and hopeless after two and a half years of trying everything. Quitting these approaches felt counterproductive, but it was necessary for me to truly heal and I want to share the story with you. I know this will be a breaking point for you too and you’ll be glad you read this till the end! 

Anger, especially when rooted in past trauma, can be overwhelming and deeply destructive. However, by understanding its source and taking proactive steps to address it, you can begin to heal and regain control over your emotions. My journey from anger to healing was not easy, but it was necessary for my well-being and for the relationships I valued, and now I’m a totally different person. If you're struggling with similar feelings, know that you're not alone, and there is hope for a brighter, more peaceful future.

Today I want to share with you how my journey unfolded and possibly help you release the anger, in case you’re going through something similar.

Realizing that the root of my overwhelm was not my packed schedule, the labels, or the future and past worries, but the sense of being out of control, was a turning point. I started focusing on what I could manage and took small steps to regain control over my life. I practiced mindfulness to stay present, set realistic boundaries, and sought tools and strategies that worked for me.

I learned a lot down this bumpy road and I’m not the kind to gatekeep, so I want to share this with you.

Feeling stuck is a common experience, but it doesn’t have to be a permanent state. By understanding the reasons why we stay stuck and taking practical steps to overcome them, we can break free from the cycle and move towards a more fulfilling life. This will sound like some sort of self-help-book bs but remember that you are not broken and you don’t need to be fixed. You just need to make some changes, shift your perspective and start behaving in a way that serves your present and future self. Start with small, manageable steps, and gradually build momentum towards the life that you want. It is possible and you’ll be glad that you started today!

Do you feel so lost in life, like nothing is going right for you? Maybe it’s even the darkest time you’ve ever had. I can totally relate because I was there too. Back in 2014, I left my teaching career, and I just felt so alone and like a failure. I didn’t think there was anything worth living for after that, even though, from the outside looking in, I had it all. I had a beautiful house, a loving husband, two beautiful girls, nice cars, college degrees—you know, the “white picket fence lifestyle.” But it just felt like there was something missing.

In this blog, I’m going to share with you the three reasons why I felt lost, and I hope that they help you on your journey. Make sure you keep reading because I think the third reason is going to be the most surprising!

The way we live our childhood can profoundly impact our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world, and eventually, that permeates into our relationships. I bet you’ve had at least one relationship in your life where you felt that everything was so familiar, it was easy to read through them, you always knew how to solve the problems because you already went through some of those with your parents, or you saw the way they used to get along and you 100% understood how “normal relationship dynamics worked”. If you’re a bit more aware of the fact that something was wrong back then you might have wondered if your adult relationships are a replay of your childhood ones. Let me tell you, chances are, they probably are to some extent, and maybe you don’t even know it. 

Let’s dive deeper into this topic to see if unhealed childhood trauma is sneaking into your life - and what you can do to leave the past in the past!

Healing is a process that takes time, and mindfulness is a tool you can use every step of the way. By practicing mindfulness, you’re creating new patterns grounded in peace, self-compassion, and a sense of safety. These new patterns replace those grounded in fear, anxiety, or anger. If you’re looking for more information on your healing journey, consider exploring resources on confronting your past for true healing with the support of a therapist, energy healer, or coach. Remember, mindfulness is a powerful ally in your journey towards healing and self-discovery!

The healing journey is unique for each individual, and it’s natural to encounter challenges along the way. By recognizing and addressing these common mistakes, you can navigate your path with greater awareness and resilience. Remember, healing is a continuous process of growth and self-discovery. Embrace the journey, be patient with yourself, and celebrate every step forward.

Regret often stems from wishing we could rewrite history. But what if we reframed our experiences? Instead of dwelling on the pain, we can focus on the wisdom gained. That abusive relationship wasn’t wasted time; it was an intensive crash course in self-awareness, and these are three master lessons I learned and want to share with you, in case you need them today:

· Boundaries and Self-Respect: In the crucible of mistreatment, you discover the importance of setting boundaries. You learn that love shouldn’t hurt, and that self-respect is non-negotiable. As a coach, I now guide others toward healthy boundaries, helping them find their voice without compromising their well-being.

· Empathy and Compassion: Pain cultivates empathy. When you walk through fire, empathy fuels your passion for helping others and it’s the compassion you develop that helps you advocate for yourself, for growth and forgiveness.

· Resilience and Perseverance: Life isn’t always about cruising the highest waves magnificently; it’s about recovering gracefully when you miss them. What I mean is that life throws some crazy challenges our way. Your resilience—the ability to bounce back after heartbreak—inspires. Learn that setbacks are part of the melody of life, not the end of the song.

If you find yourself on a similar path of seeking healing and personal empowerment, or maybe you want to start all over again, I want you to know that you are not alone. You possess the resilience, wisdom, and strength within you to effect meaningful change in your life. You are not broken; you are simply on a journey of aligning with your true self. Embrace the process with patience and compassion, and trust that you have everything you need to make the changes you seek, even if the people around you tell you otherwise.