Breaking Free from Worry: How to Stop Living in Survival Mode
Have you ever found yourself consumed by worry, as if it were an Olympic sport? I know I have. In the past, worry was my constant companion, and fear of the unknown dictated my every move. This relentless anxiety is something I inherited from my grandmother, a perpetual worrier herself. Every card she sends—whether it's for a birthday, Valentine's Day, or even Halloween—ends with a heartfelt "Stay safe." Her fears, born from a traumatic upbringing with alcoholic parents, were passed down to my father and then, of course, to me.
This cycle of worry became a pattern in my life. My father's constant warnings about the dangers of the world, compounded by my own experiences of feeling unsafe, only fueled my anxieties. Childhood memories of narrowly escaping kidnapping attempts and navigating an abusive relationship in high school solidified my belief that the world was a perilous place. My mother's history of sexual abuse further heightened my fears, leading me to be overly protective of my own daughters. I want to share my story with you. If you relate, I have some tips and tricks that will help you now, and ultimately help you transform your life!
Feeling like I had to constantly worry seemed like the only way to keep my loved ones safe. I became hyper-vigilant, practically wrapping my kids in a metaphorical bubble to protect them from any harm. This mindset was deeply rooted in my childhood, where my grandmother would constantly drill "stranger danger" scenarios into me, making me expect the worst at every turn. However, living in survival mode is exhausting and unhealthy. Constant worry keeps us trapped in a cycle of fear, preventing us from enjoying the present moment. It robs us of the ability to fully appreciate our lives and the people we care about. We become so focused on potential dangers that we miss out on the beauty and joy right in front of us.
I had to dive deep into a rabbit hole to dismantle all of these thoughts and patterns that were super rooted in my system and I know how terrifying and weird it can feel. It makes total sense if you understand that it literally means letting a part of you go for good. Still, it’s one of the most important steps you’ll have to take if you want to start living a fuller, more relaxed life that you can actually enjoy. Are you ready to step out of the shadows of your past and into the bright, beautiful future you deserve? I'm here to help you navigate that journey with confidence and a smile.
These are my 4 keys to escape the survival mode and start living a more confident life:
1. Recognize Your Strength: First things first—remember that the past doesn't have to dictate your future. We’ve talked about this before, right? It's natural to worry about things that remind us of past traumas, but guess what? You're not that helpless child anymore. You're a fully capable adult with the power to navigate challenges and protect yourself when needed. Trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way. This mindset is your ticket to breaking free from the chains of worry!
2. Identify Your Triggers: One effective way to combat worry is to pinpoint what sets it off. Are there specific situations or behaviors that remind you of past fears? Is there something dangerous happening right now? Creating a mental checklist and bringing all those possible triggers to a more conscious state can be a game-changer. In those anxious moments, remind yourself: "I am safe. I am capable. I am in control." These simple affirmations can shift your mindset and help you reduce anxiety.
Also, it’s important to evaluate whether those triggers are real, are present or not right now, and if they’re yours. Not all the baggage we’re carrying belongs to us and definitely not all the things that we’re thinking about 24/7 when we’re anxious are meant to be there with us all the time. Choose your thoughts wisely!
3. Focus on the Present: Worrying about future events that may never happen is like running on a hamster wheel—exhausting and pointless. Instead of fixating on potential problems, focus on the present and take proactive steps to address any real and current issues. You'll find it easier to let go of unnecessary fears and live more fully in the moment.
4. Embrace Your Journey: The journey toward healing and peace requires you to be present and, if you have to join the party, you might try to enjoy it as well. If you're new to this path, explore more resources and seek the support you need. This blog is a haven for those looking for guidance and understanding, and if you’re new here, I welcome you with open arms and so much joy. Together, we can learn to embrace peace and break free from the chains of worry. Trust in yourself and the journey ahead!
I’m Kim Keane, coach and energy healer, and I’d love to help you transform your life, your relationships and ultimately build a path toward a loving, peaceful life. DM me or email me at kim@kimkeane.com if you want to get personalized support, download my Free Everyday Spirituality Handbook or get my EFT Tapping Booster Session to continue making progress on your healing journey!