What Healing Looks Like When You Ditch the Self-Help Overload
You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better. Lighter. More at peace. You wanted to break free from the patterns that have kept you stuck for years. But somewhere along the way, healing became another full-time job.
Your bookshelf is overflowing with personal development books. Your podcast queue is stacked with mindset hacks. Your morning routine takes three hours because you’re journaling, meditating, EFT tapping, and pulling oracle cards.
And despite all of this, you’re still exhausted.
If this sounds familiar, you might be experiencing self-help burnout—a sneaky form of self-sabotage where healing becomes another way to prove your worth, control your emotions, or avoid the uncomfortable reality that healing isn’t a straight line.
Why Does Healing Feel Like a Full-Time Job?
You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better, right? To finally get some relief from the emotional weight you’ve been carrying for years. But somewhere along the way, healing started to feel like a second job—one you never actually clock out from.
Between the journaling, the meditations, the inner child work, the EFT tapping, the therapy sessions, and the endless cycle of self-help content, you’re exhausted. Instead of feeling lighter, it feels like you’re constantly trying to keep up. Like there’s always one more thing you should be doing. And let’s be real—sometimes it feels like you’re doing everything “right” but still not making progress.
So, if healing is supposed to be freeing…why does it feel like work?
Is Feeling Burnt Out From Healing a Sign You Need to Change Your Approach?
You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better. But now? You’re exhausted. You’ve read all the books, tried all the techniques, journaled until your hand hurts, yet, you still don’t feel “healed.” Instead, you feel burned out from healing itself.
If healing is supposed to bring relief, why does it feel like you’re running on empty? And does this mean you need to change everything or just change how you’re approaching your healing? Let’s talk about it.
The Hidden Reasons You’re Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically Drained—And How to Finally Break Free
Have you ever felt completely exhausted—even when you’re not doing anything physically demanding? Like no matter how much you rest, you still wake up feeling drained? You’re not alone.
Many people feel stuck in an endless cycle of burnout without realizing that the real culprit isn’t their workload or responsibilities—it’s unprocessed emotions and the way they’re approaching healing.
If you’ve been skimming the surface of your healing by overthinking, replaying the past, or constantly searching for the “one thing” that will finally bring relief, it’s no wonder you’re exhausted. Let’s break down why this happens—and what you can do to change it.
Unleashing Your Inner Badass: Martial Arts, Self-Empowerment, and Navigating Menopause
This week on the podcast, I had the pleasure of chatting with Dr. Kelly Baron, host of The KellFire Show and co-founder of Tempesta. Kelly is on a mission to shatter taboos, defy stereotypes, and empower women on their menopause journey. As someone closer to that journey myself, I was excited to have her as a guest. Here are the highlights of our discussion!
The Hidden Roots of Perfectionism: How Childhood Shapes Our Struggles and Path to Healing
Have you ever wondered how our childhood experiences shape our need for perfection? Perfectionism is a huge issue in our society, and more people struggle with it than we realize. We push ourselves to be flawless and meet these impossible standards. Have you ever really stopped to think about why there is such a strong desire to be perfect? Is it because we live in a high-achieving culture, or is there something more at play?
I've met countless people who are perpetual high achievers. They're always pushing themselves to be better, faster, stronger–just like that Daft Punk song– and I was one of those people.
Recognizing why we're perfectionists is the first step. The next step is to embark on the journey of healing and personal growth. It means acknowledging the wounds of our past, working through buried emotions, and developing a more loving and accepting relationship with ourselves. It's not easy—I've been there, done that—but it's necessary if we want to be free from the shackles of perfectionism.
Healing the Wounds of Criticism and Abandonment: My Journey of Self-Worth
Healing is about getting to a place where you can show love and compassion to yourself. It's about understanding that you are seen, heard, and valued. This journey is tough, but it's worth it. The community is here to support you, and together, we can navigate this path to healing and self-worth.
I hope it brings you comfort and encouragement!
There’s No Shortcut to Healing Childhood Trauma: Embrace the Journey
There is no magic pill, no secret shortcut to healing childhood trauma. It’s not something you can fix overnight. If you're here looking for that easy way out, you might as well pack up and leave now because, truth bomb: healing takes time. Yep, real, honest-to-goodness time, much more than most people are willing to admit.
There’s a quick-fix mentality even among healthcare professionals sometimes. And I fell right into that trap, thinking, "Why does it have to take so long? Why can't I just move on?"
Here’s the deal: you’re trying to unravel years, maybe even decades, of deep-seated pain and trauma. You can’t just snap your fingers and fix that. You have to be ready to commit to the long haul. Healing is like climbing a mountain—exhausting, frustrating, and at times, you slip and slide back before you can progress.
Here are some practical tools and techniques to help you feel less stuck and more empowered on your healing journey:
Fifth Sign You’re Ready to Start Healing: You’re Ready to Feel Your Emotions
Welcome, dear readers, to the grand finale of our five-part series on the signs that you're ready to heal. If you've journeyed with us through the previous signs, you know we're about to delve into something profoundly transformative. Today, we’re exploring the fifth and perhaps most exciting sign: the desire to feel alive again.
Fourth Sign You’re Ready to Start Healing: Breaking Free from Perfectionism
If you are ready to heal, you will find that being anything but perfect is perfectly okay. You will prefer to be your authentic self rather than morphing into a chameleon to please others. For me, this realization came when I accepted that my kids were happy, they knew I loved them, and it was okay to have screen time and a messy playroom. I stopped trying to have a perfectly decorated house and felt less stressed and anxious as a result.
The journey of letting go of perfectionism is not easy, but it is worth it. It allows you to experience life more fully and authentically. Brace yourself for the unexpected feelings that may arise, but know that embracing imperfection will lead to incredible growth and healing.
Start your healing journey today and discover the beauty of being perfectly imperfect!
Third Sign You’re Ready to Start Healing: You’re Facing What You've Avoided
Have you ever reached that point where you're just so tired of feeling the way you do? That feeling where you think you might finally be ready to start healing, to do the inner work you've been avoiding? If you've got that feeling, consider it a sign. It's a sign that you're ready to face what you've been running from, and believe me, you're not alone!
It's utterly exhausting when we constantly try to avoid the things we know we need to work through. Whether it's people, places, or things that remind us of past trauma, avoiding them takes up an enormous amount of energy. Mentally, physically, and emotionally—it's draining. When we avoid these triggers, we allow ourselves to numb out, skating around the issues without truly addressing them.
But deep down, we know this isn't sustainable.
Second Sign You’re Ready To Start Healing: A Strong Desire to Reconnect with Your Mind, Body, and Spirit
If you think you're ready to start your healing journey, or you're not quite sure and looking for a sign, here’s your sign. This is the second sign that you want to feel more connected with who you are on a deep level—mind, body, and spirit—because honestly, you're tired of feeling like a stranger to yourself, right?
If you haven’t read about the first sign, you can do it here and then come back!
Growing up, there were many things you wanted to do but were told you couldn’t, for whatever reasons. Maybe it was because there wasn't enough money, your caregiver didn't see the value in them, or you simply had no way to get there. When you grow up being told "no" to the things you want to do, or that your feelings and emotions are wrong, for example, you start to lose trust in yourself. You stop listening to your inner guidance and the voice in your heart. You stop trusting your thoughts, thinking maybe you're crazy or completely out of touch. This often leads to feeling like an empty shell of a person
If you relate, I’m sure you want to know yourself. You want to be able to trust yourself, to have that strong connection that many talk about but you can’t seem to find. You want to listen to your body, trust your gut, and listen to your instincts without feeling like a completely crazy person. Often, these issues stem from being told "no" repeatedly growing up. Even after leaving those caregiving situations, you may still struggle to make decisions for yourself–and you’re not the only one!
The First Sign You're Ready to Begin Your Healing Journey: Putting Yourself First
Today, we’re diving into a pivotal moment in your healing journey: recognizing that you’re tired of putting everyone else first. This might have felt like an eternity to reach, but you're here, and that's what matters. It’s time to celebrate this realization as it marks the beginning of a true transformation!
Many of us grew up believing we had to prioritize others to receive the love, acceptance, and support we craved. As children, we longed for our emotions to be validated, for affection through hugs, movie nights, or shared moments like reading together. When we didn’t receive these things, we observed others who did and learned that the way to get attention and care was to put others before ourselves.
This behavior can infiltrate any relationship—friends, coworkers, or family. We find ourselves without boundaries, and we do not know it. Our time isn't ours; our money isn't ours, and our space isn't ours. The hard pill to swallow? It’s us that are doing this to ourselves!
From Over Explainer to Calm Communicator: My Journey and How You Can Do It Too
Over-explaining is not something we do consciously and could be because of a few key reasons, most of them related to deeply rooted past trauma or childhood trauma.
If you’ve gone through it or you’re a compulsive over-explainer, you definitely know how bad it feels and probably just want to stop doing it. Please come with me to learn why it happens and how to prevent it forever.
Breaking Free from Worry: How to Stop Living in Survival Mode
The journey toward healing and peace requires you to be present and, if you have to join the party, you might try to enjoy it as well. If you're new to this path, explore more resources and seek the support you need. This blog is a haven for those looking for guidance and understanding, and if you’re new here, I welcome you with open arms and so much joy. Together, we can learn to embrace peace and break free from the chains of worry. Trust in yourself and the journey ahead!
Breaking Free from the Chains of Control: A Journey to Letting Go
Do you ever feel like it's your way or the highway all the time? If so, you may be relying on an intense need for control as a survival strategy. This is something I grappled with for a long time, often without even realizing it. My desire to control everything and everyone around me was a misguided attempt to protect my loved ones from harm but, spoiler alert: The result was far from that!
There's a significant difference between control and influence, and understanding it is a great starting point if you want to engage in more respectful dynamics. Here’s what you should know:
From Trauma to Triumph: Embracing Inner Strength and Resilience
As a final piece of advice for today, I would say: Choose positivity as your driving force. Acknowledge your inner strength, adaptability, independence, resourcefulness, and perseverance. Healing transforms weakness into resilience, fear into courage, and trauma into empowerment. You’re not defined by your past; you’re shaped by your ability to rise above it. Let the positive lead your journey toward self-discovery and healing!
DM me or email me at kim@kimkeane.com if you want to get personalized support, download my Free Everyday Spirituality Handbook or get my EFT Tapping Booster Session to continue making progress on your healing journey!
The Cost Of Holding On
Letting go is an act of courage and strength. It’s about releasing the things that no longer serve us, making room for growth and moving forward with purpose. This journey of release is not just about saying goodbye; it’s about opening up to new possibilities and embracing change.