Fifth Sign You’re Ready to Start Healing: You’re Ready to Feel Your Emotions
Welcome, dear readers, to the grand finale of our five-part series on the signs that you're ready to heal. If you've journeyed with us through the previous signs, you know we're about to delve into something profoundly transformative. Today, we’re exploring the fifth and perhaps most exciting sign: the desire to feel alive again.
Before we move further into our last sign, if you haven’t read about sign #1, sign #2, sign #3, or sign #4, this is the perfect moment to do that, You can come back to this blog later!
Imagine for a moment, a dam—massive, sturdy, holding back a vast reservoir of water. If you’re here, chances are this dam represents years, maybe decades, of unprocessed emotions. Each unspoken word, every swallowed tear, all the suppressed rage and sadness, build up like water behind this formidable structure. And here's the thing about dams: they don't last forever. Sooner or later, the pressure becomes too much, and when that dam bursts, it's a spectacular (and often messy) event.
I spent years managing my emotions. Not just my own, but everyone else’s too. It's a pattern rooted deep in my childhood experiences and family dynamics. As a child, I learned to prioritize others' feelings over my own—a survival mechanism that carried into adulthood. But here's the kicker: emotions demand to be felt. Suppressing them might work temporarily, but eventually, they will find a way out.
When I finally decided to stop suppressing my emotions, it was like opening the floodgates. Years of suppressed feelings came rushing out, and it felt overwhelming. But I quickly realized that allowing these emotions to surface gradually made the process more manageable and, dare I say, empowering.
The beauty of facing our emotions is that it leads to understanding, and understanding brings freedom. By acknowledging my feelings, I began to reclaim parts of myself that had been buried for far too long. This journey wasn’t about drowning in my emotions, but rather about learning to swim in them. Slowly but surely, I found my way to a place where I could feel my feelings without being overwhelmed by them.
Steps to Emotional Freedom
Feeling alive isn’t just about the absence of pain; it’s about the presence of passion, joy, and even sadness. It’s the full spectrum of human experience. By facing my emotions head-on, I reconnected with a sense of aliveness I had long forgotten.
Here are some steps that helped me on my journey and will help you too:
Acknowledge Your Emotions: Start by simply noticing how you feel. Don't judge or try to change your emotions. Just let them be and make it the first step of your new direction. If you don’t know what or how you’re feeling, you won’t know how to address it.
Express Yourself: Find healthy ways to express your feelings. This could be through journaling, talking to a trusted friend, or engaging in creative activities like painting or dancing.
Seek Support: Consider working with a therapist or coach who can guide you through the process. We can help you navigate the flood of emotions and provide tools to manage them effectively.
Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself. Healing is a journey, not a destination. Allow yourself to feel without guilt or shame, and don’t blame yourself for whatever happened in the past. You didn’t have the resources to manage any of that, but now you’ll do!
Embrace the Present: Focus on the here and now. Mindfulness practices, like meditation and deep breathing, can help ground you in the present moment and reduce anxiety about the future.
If you’re ready to start working through these steps but need a little extra help to get started, check out The Emotional Detox workbook here.
My journey is a powerful reminder that feeling alive again is entirely possible, even after years of emotional suppression. I went from feeling numb and disconnected to embracing the vibrant, messy, and beautiful spectrum of human emotions.
When I finally allowed myself to feel, it was like waking up from a long, dark sleep. Suddenly, colors were brighter, sounds were richer, and life had texture and depth that I hadn’t experienced in years. It wasn’t always easy, but it was absolutely worth it, and I want to help you have a similar breakthrough.
I’m Kim Keane, coach and energy healer, and I’d love to help you transform your life, your relationships and ultimately build a path toward a loving, peaceful life. DM me or email me at kim@kimkeane.com if you want to get personalized support, download my Free Everyday Spirituality Handbook or get my EFT Tapping Booster Session to continue making progress on your healing journey!