What Healing Looks Like When You Ditch the Self-Help Overload
You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better. Lighter. More at peace. You wanted to break free from the patterns that have kept you stuck for years. But somewhere along the way, healing became another full-time job.
Your bookshelf is overflowing with personal development books. Your podcast queue is stacked with mindset hacks. Your morning routine takes three hours because you’re journaling, meditating, EFT tapping, and pulling oracle cards.
And despite all of this, you’re still exhausted.
If this sounds familiar, you might be experiencing self-help burnout—a sneaky form of self-sabotage where healing becomes another way to prove your worth, control your emotions, or avoid the uncomfortable reality that healing isn’t a straight line.
Why Does Healing Feel Like a Full-Time Job?
You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better, right? To finally get some relief from the emotional weight you’ve been carrying for years. But somewhere along the way, healing started to feel like a second job—one you never actually clock out from.
Between the journaling, the meditations, the inner child work, the EFT tapping, the therapy sessions, and the endless cycle of self-help content, you’re exhausted. Instead of feeling lighter, it feels like you’re constantly trying to keep up. Like there’s always one more thing you should be doing. And let’s be real—sometimes it feels like you’re doing everything “right” but still not making progress.
So, if healing is supposed to be freeing…why does it feel like work?
Is Feeling Burnt Out From Healing a Sign You Need to Change Your Approach?
You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better. But now? You’re exhausted. You’ve read all the books, tried all the techniques, journaled until your hand hurts, yet, you still don’t feel “healed.” Instead, you feel burned out from healing itself.
If healing is supposed to bring relief, why does it feel like you’re running on empty? And does this mean you need to change everything or just change how you’re approaching your healing? Let’s talk about it.
The Hidden Reasons You’re Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically Drained—And How to Finally Break Free
Have you ever felt completely exhausted—even when you’re not doing anything physically demanding? Like no matter how much you rest, you still wake up feeling drained? You’re not alone.
Many people feel stuck in an endless cycle of burnout without realizing that the real culprit isn’t their workload or responsibilities—it’s unprocessed emotions and the way they’re approaching healing.
If you’ve been skimming the surface of your healing by overthinking, replaying the past, or constantly searching for the “one thing” that will finally bring relief, it’s no wonder you’re exhausted. Let’s break down why this happens—and what you can do to change it.
The Hidden Roots of Perfectionism: How Childhood Shapes Our Struggles and Path to Healing
Have you ever wondered how our childhood experiences shape our need for perfection? Perfectionism is a huge issue in our society, and more people struggle with it than we realize. We push ourselves to be flawless and meet these impossible standards. Have you ever really stopped to think about why there is such a strong desire to be perfect? Is it because we live in a high-achieving culture, or is there something more at play?
I've met countless people who are perpetual high achievers. They're always pushing themselves to be better, faster, stronger–just like that Daft Punk song– and I was one of those people.
Recognizing why we're perfectionists is the first step. The next step is to embark on the journey of healing and personal growth. It means acknowledging the wounds of our past, working through buried emotions, and developing a more loving and accepting relationship with ourselves. It's not easy—I've been there, done that—but it's necessary if we want to be free from the shackles of perfectionism.
Fifth Sign You’re Ready to Start Healing: You’re Ready to Feel Your Emotions
Welcome, dear readers, to the grand finale of our five-part series on the signs that you're ready to heal. If you've journeyed with us through the previous signs, you know we're about to delve into something profoundly transformative. Today, we’re exploring the fifth and perhaps most exciting sign: the desire to feel alive again.
Fourth Sign You’re Ready to Start Healing: Breaking Free from Perfectionism
If you are ready to heal, you will find that being anything but perfect is perfectly okay. You will prefer to be your authentic self rather than morphing into a chameleon to please others. For me, this realization came when I accepted that my kids were happy, they knew I loved them, and it was okay to have screen time and a messy playroom. I stopped trying to have a perfectly decorated house and felt less stressed and anxious as a result.
The journey of letting go of perfectionism is not easy, but it is worth it. It allows you to experience life more fully and authentically. Brace yourself for the unexpected feelings that may arise, but know that embracing imperfection will lead to incredible growth and healing.
Start your healing journey today and discover the beauty of being perfectly imperfect!