There’s No Shortcut to Healing Childhood Trauma: Embrace the Journey
There is no magic pill, no secret shortcut to healing childhood trauma. It’s not something you can fix overnight. If you're here looking for that easy way out, you might as well pack up and leave now because, truth bomb: healing takes time. Yep, real, honest-to-goodness time, much more than most people are willing to admit.
There’s a quick-fix mentality even among healthcare professionals sometimes. And I fell right into that trap, thinking, "Why does it have to take so long? Why can't I just move on?"
Here’s the deal: you’re trying to unravel years, maybe even decades, of deep-seated pain and trauma. You can’t just snap your fingers and fix that. You have to be ready to commit to the long haul. Healing is like climbing a mountain—exhausting, frustrating, and at times, you slip and slide back before you can progress.
Here are some practical tools and techniques to help you feel less stuck and more empowered on your healing journey:
Fifth Sign You’re Ready to Start Healing: You’re Ready to Feel Your Emotions
Welcome, dear readers, to the grand finale of our five-part series on the signs that you're ready to heal. If you've journeyed with us through the previous signs, you know we're about to delve into something profoundly transformative. Today, we’re exploring the fifth and perhaps most exciting sign: the desire to feel alive again.
Fourth Sign You’re Ready to Start Healing: Breaking Free from Perfectionism
If you are ready to heal, you will find that being anything but perfect is perfectly okay. You will prefer to be your authentic self rather than morphing into a chameleon to please others. For me, this realization came when I accepted that my kids were happy, they knew I loved them, and it was okay to have screen time and a messy playroom. I stopped trying to have a perfectly decorated house and felt less stressed and anxious as a result.
The journey of letting go of perfectionism is not easy, but it is worth it. It allows you to experience life more fully and authentically. Brace yourself for the unexpected feelings that may arise, but know that embracing imperfection will lead to incredible growth and healing.
Start your healing journey today and discover the beauty of being perfectly imperfect!
Third Sign You’re Ready to Start Healing: You’re Facing What You've Avoided
Have you ever reached that point where you're just so tired of feeling the way you do? That feeling where you think you might finally be ready to start healing, to do the inner work you've been avoiding? If you've got that feeling, consider it a sign. It's a sign that you're ready to face what you've been running from, and believe me, you're not alone!
It's utterly exhausting when we constantly try to avoid the things we know we need to work through. Whether it's people, places, or things that remind us of past trauma, avoiding them takes up an enormous amount of energy. Mentally, physically, and emotionally—it's draining. When we avoid these triggers, we allow ourselves to numb out, skating around the issues without truly addressing them.
But deep down, we know this isn't sustainable.
Second Sign You’re Ready To Start Healing: A Strong Desire to Reconnect with Your Mind, Body, and Spirit
If you think you're ready to start your healing journey, or you're not quite sure and looking for a sign, here’s your sign. This is the second sign that you want to feel more connected with who you are on a deep level—mind, body, and spirit—because honestly, you're tired of feeling like a stranger to yourself, right?
If you haven’t read about the first sign, you can do it here and then come back!
Growing up, there were many things you wanted to do but were told you couldn’t, for whatever reasons. Maybe it was because there wasn't enough money, your caregiver didn't see the value in them, or you simply had no way to get there. When you grow up being told "no" to the things you want to do, or that your feelings and emotions are wrong, for example, you start to lose trust in yourself. You stop listening to your inner guidance and the voice in your heart. You stop trusting your thoughts, thinking maybe you're crazy or completely out of touch. This often leads to feeling like an empty shell of a person
If you relate, I’m sure you want to know yourself. You want to be able to trust yourself, to have that strong connection that many talk about but you can’t seem to find. You want to listen to your body, trust your gut, and listen to your instincts without feeling like a completely crazy person. Often, these issues stem from being told "no" repeatedly growing up. Even after leaving those caregiving situations, you may still struggle to make decisions for yourself–and you’re not the only one!
The First Sign You're Ready to Begin Your Healing Journey: Putting Yourself First
Today, we’re diving into a pivotal moment in your healing journey: recognizing that you’re tired of putting everyone else first. This might have felt like an eternity to reach, but you're here, and that's what matters. It’s time to celebrate this realization as it marks the beginning of a true transformation!
Many of us grew up believing we had to prioritize others to receive the love, acceptance, and support we craved. As children, we longed for our emotions to be validated, for affection through hugs, movie nights, or shared moments like reading together. When we didn’t receive these things, we observed others who did and learned that the way to get attention and care was to put others before ourselves.
This behavior can infiltrate any relationship—friends, coworkers, or family. We find ourselves without boundaries, and we do not know it. Our time isn't ours; our money isn't ours, and our space isn't ours. The hard pill to swallow? It’s us that are doing this to ourselves!
From Over Explainer to Calm Communicator: My Journey and How You Can Do It Too
Over-explaining is not something we do consciously and could be because of a few key reasons, most of them related to deeply rooted past trauma or childhood trauma.
If you’ve gone through it or you’re a compulsive over-explainer, you definitely know how bad it feels and probably just want to stop doing it. Please come with me to learn why it happens and how to prevent it forever.
Breaking Free from Worry: How to Stop Living in Survival Mode
The journey toward healing and peace requires you to be present and, if you have to join the party, you might try to enjoy it as well. If you're new to this path, explore more resources and seek the support you need. This blog is a haven for those looking for guidance and understanding, and if you’re new here, I welcome you with open arms and so much joy. Together, we can learn to embrace peace and break free from the chains of worry. Trust in yourself and the journey ahead!
Breaking Free from the Chains of Control: A Journey to Letting Go
Do you ever feel like it's your way or the highway all the time? If so, you may be relying on an intense need for control as a survival strategy. This is something I grappled with for a long time, often without even realizing it. My desire to control everything and everyone around me was a misguided attempt to protect my loved ones from harm but, spoiler alert: The result was far from that!
There's a significant difference between control and influence, and understanding it is a great starting point if you want to engage in more respectful dynamics. Here’s what you should know:
Stop Running Away: The Real Work Begins When the Vacation Ends
THow many times have you told yourself, "I just need a vacation"? It's a go-to line for many of us dealing with life's stress and challenges. I’ve heard it from my clients for years. But being completely honest—a vacation isn’t a magic fix, and we both know it, right?
While vacations are awesome for a short-term break –and maybe a sexy tan– they're not solving the underlying problems that made you run away in the first place. It’s easy to blame others when things don’t change after you come back. "I took time off, I relaxed, so it’s not my fault things are still bad." Well, I hate to break it to you but, even if the initial situation that was stressing you out was not necessarily your responsibility, the aftermath after avoiding it will be. It’s actually up to everyone involved to do the hard work of addressing the root causes before it becomes an unmanageable nightmare.
Instead of running away, let's face things head-on. It might mean awkward conversations, dealing with anger or frustration, maybe even some tears. But this is how we grow and find real solutions like real, very aware and responsible adults. Avoiding problems only leads to a never-ending cycle of stress and escape and that's exhausting.
From Trauma to Triumph: Embracing Inner Strength and Resilience
As a final piece of advice for today, I would say: Choose positivity as your driving force. Acknowledge your inner strength, adaptability, independence, resourcefulness, and perseverance. Healing transforms weakness into resilience, fear into courage, and trauma into empowerment. You’re not defined by your past; you’re shaped by your ability to rise above it. Let the positive lead your journey toward self-discovery and healing!
DM me or email me at kim@kimkeane.com if you want to get personalized support, download my Free Everyday Spirituality Handbook or get my EFT Tapping Booster Session to continue making progress on your healing journey!
Breaking Free: The Power of Labels and Self-Identity
Labels… They cling to us like invisible tattoos, shaping our perception of self and coloring our experiences. Whether bestowed upon us by others or self-imposed, these labels become the lenses through which we view the world. In this exploration of self-identity, I invite you to journey with me through the labyrinth of labels—the ones we wear proudly and the ones that weigh us down.
Healthy Family Communication: Building Trust and Connection
In our fast-paced world, nurturing healthy communication within our family members is more crucial than ever. Effective communication lays the foundation for trust, conflict resolution, emotional connection, and overall well-being. Whether you’re gathering with just the adults or including the kids, in this blog you’ll find some essential practices that will help you enhance your family interactions.
Nurturing Quality Relationship Dynamics: Lessons from a Coach's Personal Journey
Relationships are the cornerstone of our lives, shaping our emotional well-being and overall happiness. As a woman, I have experienced firsthand the challenges of fostering quality dynamics in my own marriage. There was a time when both my husband and I struggled with feeling unheard and invalidated, leading to a breakdown in communication and trust. Through our journey of self-discovery and growth, we have learned valuable lessons that have transformed our relationship into one built on mutual respect, understanding, and love.
In this blog, I will share insights and tips on how to cultivate healthy relationship dynamics in different settings, drawing from my personal experiences and professional expertise as a coach. Whether you are navigating challenges in your romantic partnership, friendships, or professional relationships, these strategies can help you foster deeper connections and create a more fulfilling life.
It’s Ok to Change Your Path
Comparison is a tough foe that can hinder our personal growth and prevent us from recognizing our true worth and value. By breaking free from the comparison trap and embracing vulnerability, we can embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment that might change our lives forever. As a coach, I encourage you to prioritize self-compassion and gratitude, set boundaries, embrace vulnerability, and seek professional help when needed.
5 Steps to Break Free from the Comparison Trap and How to Embrace Your Worth and Value
Comparison is a tough foe that can hinder our personal growth and prevent us from recognizing our true worth and value. By breaking free from the comparison trap and embracing vulnerability, we can embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment that might change our lives forever. As a coach, I encourage you to prioritize self-compassion and gratitude, set boundaries, embrace vulnerability, and seek professional help when needed.
Empower Your Journey: From Teacher to Wellness Coach - A Story of Healing and Transformation
If you find yourself on a similar path of seeking healing and personal empowerment, or maybe you want to start all over again, I want you to know that you are not alone. You possess the resilience, wisdom, and strength within you to effect meaningful change in your life. You are not broken; you are simply on a journey of aligning with your true self. Embrace the process with patience and compassion, and trust that you have everything you need to make the changes you seek, even if the people around you tell you otherwise.