Nobody Knows What They're Doing

Read that title twice, thrice, and as many times as you need to make it stick to your mind.

Sometimes, especially when we’re struggling with something, we tend to look around looking for a sign, a guide, a supporter, but end up feeling way worse because they all have perfect, put-together lives, ideal families, they’re all thriving and…

NO. Stop right there. None of that is true.

They seem to have their lives together but do they?

Imagine your favorite influencer.

Try to remember everything you know about them. Now, remember what you’ve seen from them and where/how did you acquire that information.

Probably online, right?

What I want to show you with this is that we share what we want to share. You may do that as well and someone out there is looking at your life and wondering how to be more like you while they have no clue of everything going on in your life at the moment. 

And that happens to most of us more than once. We play both of those roles alternatively and without even noticing until eventually we DO notice and break that pattern.

The key to breaking the cycle is remembering that nobody knows what they’re doing.

Stop comparing yourself to others, stop trying to be more like them, and stop measuring your progress using somebody else's bar because it will never fit you and you might cause a lot of damage to yourself.

You’re hurting yourself by feeling less than others, feeling incapable, dumb, lost, ashamed. 

All of those feelings are completely valid and you’re totally allowed to let them come through but stop receiving them as if you were a 5-star hotel or a resort. Don’t let the feeling get too comfortable inside and please let it teach you instead of defining you.

I don’t know what I’m doing but I am open to learning along the way and that’s probably one of the most wonderful things about not knowing where you’re going: any road can take you where you should be.