But… I’m a Mom

I think that it’s a common experience that, after starting your motherhood journey, you become “the mom“ and the rest of what you are seems to disappear.

Suddenly, your achievements, goals, friends, hobbies, etcetera are substituted by motherhood and that’s one of the main reasons why we lose our identity a few years into it.

Don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom and it’s such an exciting, loving and rewarding experience that I personally wouldn’t change for anything else but, after a few years, I remembered that I am more than a mother, more than a daughter, more than a wife. I have a whole universe within and you do too.

By realizing that, I also experienced some confusion because after all that time I forgot how to be an individual and learning how to reconstruct ourselves is a whole journey itself.

There’s so much you can do to figure out your current identity and know yourself on a deeper level. From journaling and shadow work, mindfulness and meditation, or just reconnecting with the things you enjoy. Try making a playlist with music you like, going to a painting class, a yoga or zumba session, getting together with a friend you really love and talking about anything but routine.

Make space for having some “me time“, enjoy yourself, get a haircut or a makeover. There’s a lot you can do to feel like an individual again without leaving your daily life unattended. YOU are a part of your life. Actually, the most permanent part of your life is yourself. Embody it, cherish it, honor it and soon you’ll realize that everything will get better after you’re at peace with yourself.