Boundaries to Free Yourself
Have you ever thought to yourself that your life is being controlled by the rest of the world? Well, at some point I felt like that.
Maybe you feel like your parents, your partner, friends, kids or bosses go over you and, when you realize it, it’s been already happening for a while and seems to be too late to take your control back.
SPOILER ALERT: You’re always one step away from a completely different life, from a life where you honor your boundaries.
One of the most common situations we confront as grown adults is lacking boundaries, either because we weren’t taught how to establish them when we were younger, we had inappropriate modeling or because they’re often perceived as an exaggeration, so we end up -consciously or unconsciously- allowing behaviors from others that trespass our limits, and this is not only a mental or emotional situation; it’s also physical and can be manifested starting from an uncomfortable physical contact that you were too shy or scared to stop, receiving a neglecting comment and not saying anything about it, staying with a partner who wrongs you constantly, a boss that exploits you and many more situations that might seem little but can be very dangerous to our health in the long run.
Good news! It’s never too late to break the cycle and start regaining control over yourself. You are the only one capable of establishing the boundaries, limits, and rules for anyone who wants to access your energy, mind, and life.
Learning to express love, confidence, compassion and kindness to ourselves is crucial in the path of setting and keeping healthy boundaries, and in addition to having autonomy and making decisions based on our lives (and not just the people around us), learning to decline and say ¨no¨ when needed, can make a huge difference in ourselves, our perception, stability, progress, health and relationships.
One of the most important things to successfully begin to set boundaries is forgiving yourself for holding onto the wrong patterns, for giving your power to others and for allowing them to cross far from where they should have stayed in the first place.
Then, recognize that you are the only one with the ability to swap those behaviors and start honoring your path with your decisions.
Meditate, do journaling, yoga and get more involved with practices that help you connect with yourself and your needs, to improve your well-being and build a stronger and more grounded self.
You can do it and I’ll be happy to assist you through the process.
I’m proud of you!