What Healing Looks Like When You Ditch the Self-Help Overload
You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better. Lighter. More at peace. You wanted to break free from the patterns that have kept you stuck for years. But somewhere along the way, healing became another full-time job.
Your bookshelf is overflowing with personal development books. Your podcast queue is stacked with mindset hacks. Your morning routine takes three hours because you’re journaling, meditating, EFT tapping, and pulling oracle cards.
And despite all of this, you’re still exhausted.
If this sounds familiar, you might be experiencing self-help burnout—a sneaky form of self-sabotage where healing becomes another way to prove your worth, control your emotions, or avoid the uncomfortable reality that healing isn’t a straight line.
Why Does Healing Feel Like a Full-Time Job?
You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better, right? To finally get some relief from the emotional weight you’ve been carrying for years. But somewhere along the way, healing started to feel like a second job—one you never actually clock out from.
Between the journaling, the meditations, the inner child work, the EFT tapping, the therapy sessions, and the endless cycle of self-help content, you’re exhausted. Instead of feeling lighter, it feels like you’re constantly trying to keep up. Like there’s always one more thing you should be doing. And let’s be real—sometimes it feels like you’re doing everything “right” but still not making progress.
So, if healing is supposed to be freeing…why does it feel like work?
Is Feeling Burnt Out From Healing a Sign You Need to Change Your Approach?
You started your healing journey because you wanted to feel better. But now? You’re exhausted. You’ve read all the books, tried all the techniques, journaled until your hand hurts, yet, you still don’t feel “healed.” Instead, you feel burned out from healing itself.
If healing is supposed to bring relief, why does it feel like you’re running on empty? And does this mean you need to change everything or just change how you’re approaching your healing? Let’s talk about it.
The Hidden Reasons You’re Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically Drained—And How to Finally Break Free
Have you ever felt completely exhausted—even when you’re not doing anything physically demanding? Like no matter how much you rest, you still wake up feeling drained? You’re not alone.
Many people feel stuck in an endless cycle of burnout without realizing that the real culprit isn’t their workload or responsibilities—it’s unprocessed emotions and the way they’re approaching healing.
If you’ve been skimming the surface of your healing by overthinking, replaying the past, or constantly searching for the “one thing” that will finally bring relief, it’s no wonder you’re exhausted. Let’s break down why this happens—and what you can do to change it.
Unleashing Your Inner Badass: Martial Arts, Self-Empowerment, and Navigating Menopause
This week on the podcast, I had the pleasure of chatting with Dr. Kelly Baron, host of The KellFire Show and co-founder of Tempesta. Kelly is on a mission to shatter taboos, defy stereotypes, and empower women on their menopause journey. As someone closer to that journey myself, I was excited to have her as a guest. Here are the highlights of our discussion!
The Hidden Roots of Perfectionism: How Childhood Shapes Our Struggles and Path to Healing
Have you ever wondered how our childhood experiences shape our need for perfection? Perfectionism is a huge issue in our society, and more people struggle with it than we realize. We push ourselves to be flawless and meet these impossible standards. Have you ever really stopped to think about why there is such a strong desire to be perfect? Is it because we live in a high-achieving culture, or is there something more at play?
I've met countless people who are perpetual high achievers. They're always pushing themselves to be better, faster, stronger–just like that Daft Punk song– and I was one of those people.
Recognizing why we're perfectionists is the first step. The next step is to embark on the journey of healing and personal growth. It means acknowledging the wounds of our past, working through buried emotions, and developing a more loving and accepting relationship with ourselves. It's not easy—I've been there, done that—but it's necessary if we want to be free from the shackles of perfectionism.
From Trauma to Triumph: Embracing Inner Strength and Resilience
As a final piece of advice for today, I would say: Choose positivity as your driving force. Acknowledge your inner strength, adaptability, independence, resourcefulness, and perseverance. Healing transforms weakness into resilience, fear into courage, and trauma into empowerment. You’re not defined by your past; you’re shaped by your ability to rise above it. Let the positive lead your journey toward self-discovery and healing!
DM me or email me at kim@kimkeane.com if you want to get personalized support, download my Free Everyday Spirituality Handbook or get my EFT Tapping Booster Session to continue making progress on your healing journey!
Breaking Free: The Power of Labels and Self-Identity
Labels… They cling to us like invisible tattoos, shaping our perception of self and coloring our experiences. Whether bestowed upon us by others or self-imposed, these labels become the lenses through which we view the world. In this exploration of self-identity, I invite you to journey with me through the labyrinth of labels—the ones we wear proudly and the ones that weigh us down.
Building a Self-Reliant Toolbox: Strategies for Emotional Resilience
Self-reliance is about having a set of tools at your disposal that you can use to manage your emotional state. It’s about being equipped to handle whatever life throws at you, without feeling dependent on external solutions. This doesn’t mean rejecting medical advice or assistance; rather, it’s about complementing it with personal strategies that enhance your ability to cope.
My toolbox is built on three foundational pillars. Let’s explore each of these and how they can empower you to manage your emotional state effectively.
Filling Your Own Tank: The Journey to Self-Appreciation and Love
In conclusion, filling your own tank is not just about self-indulgence; it’s about self-preservation and growth. When we learn to appreciate and love ourselves, we create a wellspring of positivity that overflows into every aspect of our lives. Check these tips and start today. Celebrate yourself, reflect on your presence, and watch as the world around you transforms, one self-loving act at a time.
Overcoming Overwhelm: A Journey to Self-Care and Worthiness
In the hustle and bustle of modern life, it’s all too easy to take on more than we can handle. The desire to prove ourselves and manage the perceptions of others can lead us down a path of overcommitment, leaving us feeling unfocused, erratic, and utterly overwhelmed. This is a tale many of us know all too well, and it’s the focus of a particularly insightful podcast episode I recorded years ago.
Here are some of the key takeaways to help anyone struggling with similar issues:
Letting Go of Unnecessary Burdens
1. Identify What’s Not Yours
2. Practice Saying ‘No’
3. Delegate
Prioritizing Self-Care and Worthiness
1. Self-Care Rituals
2. Affirmations
3. Align Actions with Values
Building and Relying on Your Support System
1. Seek Support
2. Share Your Struggles
3. Set Boundaries
Elevating Life with Standards Instead of Expectations: A Personal Journey of Transformation
Let’s begin understanding the differences between these terms:
Expectations are often externally imposed beliefs or assumptions about how we should act, look, or behave in certain situations. They can create pressure, stress, and feelings of inadequacy when we fail to meet them. On the other hand, standards are internal guidelines that we set for ourselves based on our values, beliefs, and aspirations. They serve as a compass for how we want to live our lives and the kind of person we strive to be.
Master The Art of Spending Time With Yourself
Poor self-awareness, insecurities and codependency are the perfect mix for a lot of damage and when we fill our time by spending time with other people (family, friends, partners, etc.) we don’t have time or space to sit alone with ourselves, realize that we have these issues and find ways to solve them. Here are some tips that helped me master the art of spending time with myself, and may also help you:
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
2. Challenge Negative Beliefs
3. Seek Support
4. Practice Self-Care
5. Set Boundaries
6. Let Go of Guilt
7. Embrace Solitude
Deeply Loved and Cared For: A Journey of Self-Discovery, Empathy and Appreciation
Remember, you are worthy of love, appreciation, and empathy, and that the people around you deserve it too. By embracing your own value and nurturing your emotional well-being, you can break free from the cycle of seeking validation from others and find true fulfillment within yourself. Embrace your journey of self-discovery with compassion and courage, knowing that you are deserving of all the love and care in the world, and see how your relationships become more nurturing and expansive.
Finding Self-Worth Beyond the 'Mom' Clock: A Journey to Recognizing Your Value
Recognizing your self-worth beyond the confines of the 'mom' clock is a transformative journey that requires introspection, communication, honesty, and gratitude. By embracing your unique identity and prioritizing your well-being, you can break free from the limitations of any single role and cultivate a deeper, comprehensive sense of worth and fulfillment. Remember that you are valuable, deserving of love and care, and capable of creating a life that honors all aspects of who you are. Embrace your worth, embrace yourself.
It’s Ok to Change Your Path
Comparison is a tough foe that can hinder our personal growth and prevent us from recognizing our true worth and value. By breaking free from the comparison trap and embracing vulnerability, we can embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment that might change our lives forever. As a coach, I encourage you to prioritize self-compassion and gratitude, set boundaries, embrace vulnerability, and seek professional help when needed.